Tindering

Is Tindering is bad for you?

Tinder has stormed the dating scene in the UK, becoming ubiquitous overnight and changing attitudes to the point where searching for love online is, probably for the first time, totally acceptable. Pubs and bars are now full of people on Tinder, tindering each other, or getting their friends to tinder each other for them, or talking about Tinder. Tindering is a public activity and this has massively extended the reach of online dating as a whole, getting many more people involved; many who start with Tinder and then progress to other sites. This reflects Tinder’s downside which is simply that it is too successful and demands too much time and attention.

Tinder has huge numbers of users, but no matching system, so you are forced to manually search through hundreds, and if you don’t stop yourself, thousands of profiles. Profiles consist of little but a picture, so decisions about whether to get in touch with another member are based almost exclusively on looks. All this means that Tinder is an extremely stimulating service, but one that encourages rather superficial behaviours, conversations and arguably even dates (Tindering is definitely better suited to casual dating).

Tindering Burn Out Syndrome

Imagine being able to browse your way through an endless catalogue of hot girls or boys, then having a little button at the bottom where you can say if you think their sexy or not. Fun game right? Now imagine these sexy people are real, live in your neighbourhood and you can send them a message. – Welcome to the world of tindering. It’s a game that has got addiction written all over it and, needless to say, Tinder Burn Out is already a common phrase doing the rounds. It’s only a matter of time before the first Tinder addiction clinics start springing up – leave your mobile at the door.

Life after tindering

But even if it doesn’t end well in itself, the Tinder experience may have a positive legacy for some, waking up all those stubborn singles out there to the power of online dating to change their lives for the better. Many people who previously thought online dating beneath them are now tindering and at least a proportion of these new recruits are likely to reassess their attitudes having made the first step. There are loads of great services out there that can help singles to meet one another and gently introduce dating to their weekly or monthly routine, without becoming the constant distraction of a Tinder app.